Dare to CHANGE

Tomorrow, I am planning on getting lost: take a totally strange path to work, try a different food maybe Vietnamese or something similar to that; travel somewhere new and meet various people, or even listen to another type of music

 

You find yourself in the rarest, strangest, most impossible paths... Change is liberating, we are united in our differences. 

Boundaries aka I do this my way

Sometimes I like to take a walk towards unknown paths during my lunch break. Today, while reflecting on daily STUFF I came across a thought: I like to be nice and understanding to people merely because I feel like our purpose on this planet is to serve one another. But how important it is to be nice while not getting run over? In other words, to avoid the effect of "door matt" syndrome where you can not say "No" easily to anybody, thus you become taken advantage of...If people know you are going to be there for them for ever no matter how disrespectful/unpleasant their behavior is, do not expect them to value and appreciate you for long. Can setting boundaries help gaining trust when people notice you are sticking to your set standards? I feel like this is something Carrie Bradshaw wouldn't do to Mr. Big since she was afraid of losing him, but didn't she end up losing him after all to a more elegant opponent who won him with a colder attitude? Well duhhh practice makes perfection, so next time I am jumping on saying "Yes" I will make sure not to cross my own borders. Nothing wrong with being a nice human and seeing good in people, just don't over do it!

ap·pre·ci·ate (v): value somebody or something highly: to recognize and like the qualities in somebody or something

Often times we get so caught up with our daily tasks that we jump on complaining about how bad our day goes or what kind of failure creatures we are, we never get what we want,...And it goes on and on. What we don't realize is the amount of negative energy that this brings as not lowering any amount of suffering, but on the contrary adding up to an already bad day. If we take a moment to find appreciation each day for how healthy and blessed we are, not only will we find life more beautiful, but probably will stop comparing ourselves with others! You can find anything good in whatever you put your mind in: a beautiful sunshine, a note from someone you love, great feeling after your work out... it just can be anything! Take a moment to appreciate.